Saying Yes When You Mean No

Are you a yes person? Do you find it so so very hard to say no? Do you shrink from confrontation? Find powerful conversations tough?   Believe me I know how you feel. For most of my life I have heard the yes word come from my mouth even when I mean no. Leading again and again to a deep sense of resentment against myself AND the person or situation I said yes to. Even though they were unaware that I really didn’t want to be in the situation I had said yes to.   This led to pent up feelings. Blaming the other person for somehow not psychically KNOWING that I would never want to do that thing. I hang my head shamefully as I admit I even ended friendships rather than voicing my true feelings and needs.   There was one girl many years ago who used to get me to babysit her kids all the time so that she could go out with various boyfriends. Because I couldn’t say no I grew more and more resentful and rather than speak up for myself I blocked her from my life because in my eyes she had used me.   Thankfully I now forgive my younger self for this behavior and I would not do anything as extreme now. But I still hear the yes word leaving my mouth at times.   However, I am learning. I am learning to know and speak my truth. I am learning to say no without a lame excuse. I am learning to say when something doesn’t work for me. The start...