What The Heck Does It Mean To Be Enlightened???

What The Heck Does It Mean To Be Enlightened???

My ‘enlightenment‘ came into question during a Facebook Private Message exchange a couple of days ago. It was an interesting case where I responded to a persons PM promoting her business (this person had done it before and I had ignored - but there had been NO other engagement since 2011) but this was right on a fiery Leo Full moon and I am fiery anyway!) with the following: ‘This is spam. Just like emailing without permission’ and when she responded with an apology but said she ‘thought I might like to help a fellow business woman out’ I responded ‘I don’t help out fellow business women who only engage with me when they want something.’. Was I a little sharp? Yes, probably. What can I say, it was a BIG Leo Full Moon on Tuesday and I am not perfect. I had forgotten about it by Wednesday morning but then this happened…..   Her MOTHER messaged me telling me to ‘check your attitude when it comes to what you propose that you are about and what you really are about’ and that they were ‘deeply connected to many in my ‘group‘.’ When I asked if that was a threat she also said ‘I am not threatening you with my connections just trying to awaken you. Who seems who professes to be so enlightened’. There was more but I only set the scene because this set me to thinking what it really MEANS to be enlightened.   So, let’s start with the etymology from Dictionary.com. enlighten (v.) Look up enlighten at Dictionary.com late 14c., “to remove the dimness or blindness”...
Healers Boundaries!

Healers Boundaries!

I love to help people. I am one of those people who others always come to for help. People tell me their deepest, darkest thoughts and feelings and I get them. I understand them and know how to listen deeply and to give compassionate mentoring without telling people what to do.   I even have a Psychotherapist friend who comes to me for mentoring, advice and to offload.   The questions of boundaries can get difficult because I work deeply with my clients. When I work with their charts I see into their soul (all completely confidential of course!) and I get to know them intimately. I am, therefore, seen as a close confidante and friend. But this is my business.   My work as an Intuitive Astrological Mentor means that I am increasingly finding that my empathic skills and need to help people lead to boundary crossing and burn out in my business and two very clear instances today prompted me to write this post. One a blog post on burn out by my mentor Leonie Dawson (you can read it here) and a few ‘quick questions’ from people I had worked with in the past.   I’m sure many of you that are in similar professions will relate. And I KNOW that people don’t mean to cross boundaries. The fault is entirely mine. Because I want to help people and I want them to feel better! The fault is mine because my boundaries are not clear and I find it hard to say no. BUT, I get burned out if I don’t have boundaries.   So here...

Take A Long Cool Look At Love

For the next four months we have Venus in Capricorn which is inviting us to take a long, cool look at love. Venus is the female principle. She is love, relationships, beauty, harmony and wealth. Capricorn is discipline, ‘common’ sense (whatever that really is), boundaries, responsibility and reliability. And Venus is in Capricorn for four whole months as it will retrograde in this sign.   So what does this mean for us? To me this is another astrological event that gets a bad rap. I have seen many saying that it’s a cold place and the like. Well yes, it can be. But not always.   ‘Love is what makes the world go around’. ‘Love is all we need’. These and so many sayings about love. People crave love and want to feel loved. But what is love?   Lasting love is not the slush of romantic novels. Well for sure that’s maybe the START of love. But true love that lasts goes deeper and needs work. Love is an act, a verb, something that we do.   Lasting love is not giving so much that you lose yourself in relationships. And that applies to your partner, your children, your close friends. Whoever is significant in your life. Lasting love starts with loving yourself first and foremost. Yes, really.   And this is one of the lessons of this long period of Venus in Capricorn. During this time we will have the strength to really look at our relationships and see where the patterns and structures no longer serve us. We can look at our own part in unhealthy...