I have discussed many aspects of overcoming fear on this blog over time. A simple search in the search box on the right will lead you to many posts. What is fear really though? What is being fearless? I thought I would explore these topics further.
Fear has been described as many things and many acronyms are bandied about the internet. ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’, ‘Forget Everything and Run’ and ‘Face Everything and Rise’ are just three that jump to mind.
These are simplistic in my opinion. Some fears are healthy. If you are walking alone and night and you hear someone following you and they stop when you stop and run when you run, then it’s a healthy reaction to be fearful. If someone comes at you with a knife fear is also a healthy reaction. It’s what happens to you when you are fearful that is more important. If fear paralyzes you then you are unable to deal with a situation. I was once trailed by a car with four guys in when I was a teen. I felt fear but instead of panicking I walked up the driveway to a random house and rang the doorbell. The car drove off and I waited until I was sure they were gone before walking the rest of the way home. I didn’t let it paralyze me or let it rule my life, however. I did continue to walk home. We lived in a generally safe area, it was before cell phones and I was too young to drive. No way was I going to let this stop me living my life.
It’s the deeper soul fears that are more insidious. The fear of our shadow that leads to the fear of not being liked. To feeling that no one will like us if the figure out what we are really like inside. The fear of not being enough. The fear of not being lovable. I have always seemed fearless in many ways. I have moved countries alone. I have stepped into situations that many would not. But on a soul level I have lived with many fears.
As an example using astrology, I have Capricorn rising. This rising sign is seen as dependable and highly capable from the moment they are born. The shadow of this is that those with this rising sign often have a deep rooted fear that they are actually not as capable as people believe them to be. They have a fear of being ‘found out’. As a result they often fight against this image of themselves that they themselves portray. For those of you that have known me through my talk of being shy, this rising sign often feels, and comes across as, shy and reserved, because of the fear.
The truth of the matter is that they actually ARE very dependable and capable and once they accept this fully they grow up and really own the dependable and capable side of themselves. When I fully understood this through astrology I learned to love this part of me and these fears began to dissolve. I ‘feel’ less shy. I have or am learning to love this part of me that often felt like a restriction or something that repressed my core. Once I made friends with what for me felt like my shadow I actually learned to love it and felt more complete.
My point is that many fears can be overcome or lessened through a full understanding of what makes us tick. Once we learn to love every part of ourselves, to see what we believed to be our shadow as a part of our shiny self, then we can become whole. I am reminded of the famous Marianne Williamson quote:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
My own take on this is that we must learn to love our light AND our darkness. To make friends with our shine AND our shadow, in order to become truly fearless and to live our souls intention. Once we no longer fear our shadow it becaomes part of our light and we can truly shine.
Are there any parts of you that you repress or dislike that would be best brought to light? What soul fears do you have repressed or tucked away that you would like to make friends with? Have you already experienced this and have something to share that could help others? Tell us in the comments below!
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